Marriage in Islam
Marriage is a religious and social contract between bride and groom. For a valid marriage, certain conditions must be met:
- Consent of both parties, which is called Ijab and Qubul.
- Mahr – a gift from the groom to his bride.
- Two witnesses.
- Khutbatun Nikah – to solemnize the marriage.
Both parties mutually agree and enter into the contract. One matrimonial party, express ‘ijab’ willing consent to enter into marriage and the other party expresses ‘Qubul.’Acceptance of the responsibility in the assembly of the marriage. This contract must be written and signed by the bride and the groom. It should be entered into with total commitment and full knowledge of what it involves. It is not like buying a new dress where you can exchange it if you don’t like it. Your partner should be your choice for life.
Mohar: Mahr is a gift from the husband to his wife. A marriage is not valid without Mahr. It does not have to be money or gold. It can be non-materialistic. The amount of it is not legally specified, but it is the husband’s responsibility to pay his wife the requested amount. It is better to pay cash on the day of marriage, or it can be deferred to a later date. But it must be paid by the groom when requested by his wife.
Hazrat Abu Hurayra رضي الله عنه reported that Prophet Muahammad صلى الله عليه وسلم advised “a woman is married for four things;
- Her wealth
- Her beauty
- For her worldly status
- For her devotion to religion
You should achieve success by marrying a woman who is devoted to religion. Go may you find goodness.”
The marriage should be publicized and not be kept a secret as it would lead to suspicion and troubles within the community. The Prophet Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم said "O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry, because it helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty. And whoever is not able to marry should fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power".
Hazrat Abdullah-ibn-Umor رضي الله عنه reported the messenger of Allah said "The whole world is a place for gaining profit and the best thing in the world to profit by a virtuous woman."
Process for Nikah:
- Girl representative contact Imam Sahab to confirm date and time
- One week prior to Nikah to submit copy of NIC of persons entering in Nikah as well as copy NIC of Wakil (guardian) and 2 witnesses
- Girl’s Wakil (guardian) and 2 witnesses to confirm receiving her consent and Mahr requested
- Imam Sahab complete Nikah form received from Muslim Family Council
- Upon performance of Nikah by Imam Sahab, all parties to execute form filled in for submission to Muslim Family Council
- Muslim Family Council, upon verification of documents submitted, will arrange for issuance of wedding certificate